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HOW UNHEALTHY AND UNEQUAL COMPARISON IS KILLING RELATIONSHIPS

A kid was proudly describing to two other kids on how his dad’s car is the best in the neighborhood. One of the two hearers cut him short and proved to him that the rich family living down the street has better car with good reasons. The kid became angry and sad at the same time.

Unhealthy comparison
Unhealthy comparison

Most times in life we hold on to certain things we have in life believing that they are the best. But from the moment a comparison is done with some other things and we find our own wanting, we (implicitly or explicitly) become sad about it. Worst of all, we start to become discontented with that which we have.

From the moment we put ourselves (or someone else does) on a scale with our colleagues, friends, or even strangers that we have not met, the feeling of inadequacy and redundancy comes in.

What if we are found better than the others? Continue reading HOW UNHEALTHY AND UNEQUAL COMPARISON IS KILLING RELATIONSHIPS

DEFINING PERSONAL BOUNDARY: A POWERFUL STEP TO PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT

Golden rule and platinum rule: defining personal boundary
Photo with permission from MG Expressions

We are humans and every human, just like other animals, are territorial . Such territoriality in this context is the personal space and the space is surrounded by perimeters we create for ourselves.

There is nothing wrong and there is everything right if one creates a definite personal territorial boundary in life. In sciences and engineering, all successful breakthroughs come with the aid of creating boundary conditions. Well I did not find them funny while learning partial differential equations in school!. Continue reading DEFINING PERSONAL BOUNDARY: A POWERFUL STEP TO PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT

WHY IS THERE MORE HONOR IN FIXING DAMAGES THAN PREVENTING THEM?

More honor in fixing damagesIt is becoming an unspoken challenge that there is more honor in fixing things after they have damaged than preventing the damage from occurring. An ancient Chinese story recounted in Ron Moore’s “Making Common Sense Common Practice” goes like this “A lord of ancient China once asked his physician, a member of a family of healers, which of them was the most skilled in the art. The physician, whose reputation was such that his name became synonymous with medical science in China, replied, “My eldest brother sees the spirit of sickness and removes it before it takes shape, so his name does not get out of the house. My elder brother cures sickness when it is still extremely minute, so his name does not get out of the neighborhood. As for me, I puncture veins, prescribe potions, and massage skin, so from time to time my name gets out and is heard among the lords.” Continue reading WHY IS THERE MORE HONOR IN FIXING DAMAGES THAN PREVENTING THEM?

HOW TO BUILD A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP WITH A HEAT SINK

beautiful marriage
Making things beautiful

What makes a beautiful marriage? What makes it great?

I really admire Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey’s beautiful pictures (they took during their happy days), so beautiful! A thought just struck my mind with this question: who is the heat sink among the two for making these happy moments? (Let me not forget to say I admired their twin children; see the video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhCvtfJGkMI)

What is heat sink all about? Continue reading HOW TO BUILD A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP WITH A HEAT SINK

WHY PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHERS MISERABLE

You cannot reignite your candle or make it shine brighter by extinguishing another person’s. We will never feel better ourselves by making others feel as miserable as we are.

CYMERA_20151028_044733A lot of people are miserable with themselves. Since you cannot give what you do not have, they have only misery to share with others

A lot of people, in their own misery, aim to make sure that everyone around them feel as miserable as they do. They want every other persons to be on the same level as them, feel the same pain as they do (even when other do not deserve such). Some even secretly Continue reading WHY PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHERS MISERABLE

THE THREE PRINCIPLES OF RELATIONSHIP

“The feeling of being more responsible to a relationship arises automatically when we feel wanted in the relationship”

Every relationship is unique in its own way whether it is social, marital, family/parent, work or even just friends. In spite of their differences, and just as we, humans are fundamentally equal, all kinds of relationship have three fundamental principles. These three principles start any relationship and go ahead to form a backbone knitting each together at any point. Frictions in relationships arise when any or all is lacking. The three things we all do desire from anyone we are in any relationship with are that they should:

  1. accept us
  1. want us
  1. be committed to our wellbeing.

Continue reading THE THREE PRINCIPLES OF RELATIONSHIP

Enrich Your Relationship with Letter of Gratitude

“Being grateful is usually heartwarming, not just to the receiver but also to the giver when it is truly sincere and out from the heart. This is because the giver, at that moment, is filled with the positive energy of gratitude which he sends to the receiver

Have we all just forgotten how to be grateful? Is it just when we receive something extraordinary from someone that we ought to be grateful? I think we are losing something here!

While taking the Leadership for Engineers course on www.edx.org, an online learning site, one of the major points for sustainable leadership was letter of gratitude. It involves writing a letter of appreciation to someone, anybody. This inspired me to start such up and since then, it has been a wonderful experience. Here is one I wrote to my dad

Dear dad, There are quite a lot of people I do admire but I would write about you. You are not just a great dad
but also a caring mentor and an awesome pastor to me and to quite a lot of people including my siblings.All my life, you have been Continue reading Enrich Your Relationship with Letter of Gratitude