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HOW UNHEALTHY AND UNEQUAL COMPARISON IS KILLING RELATIONSHIPS

A kid was proudly describing to two other kids on how his dad’s car is the best in the neighborhood. One of the two hearers cut him short and proved to him that the rich family living down the street has better car with good reasons. The kid became angry and sad at the same time.

Unhealthy comparison
Unhealthy comparison

Most times in life we hold on to certain things we have in life believing that they are the best. But from the moment a comparison is done with some other things and we find our own wanting, we (implicitly or explicitly) become sad about it. Worst of all, we start to become discontented with that which we have.

From the moment we put ourselves (or someone else does) on a scale with our colleagues, friends, or even strangers that we have not met, the feeling of inadequacy and redundancy comes in.

What if we are found better than the others? Continue reading HOW UNHEALTHY AND UNEQUAL COMPARISON IS KILLING RELATIONSHIPS

Animals’ Love: Why Humans Cannot Love Us the Way Animals Love Us.

Animals' love: why humans cannot love us the way animals love usI came across a beautiful photo on the internet, of a lady crying about missing her dog on her wedding day. I was really attracted by the photo and my friend Maria (who made the photo for the article) said: “ShimonK, why do we really have such affinity towards animals (our pets), can we not love the way animals do?” This spurred me to research, to ask a lot of people these questions:

  1. Why do you love your animal so much?
  2. Why does your animal love you so much?

Continue reading Animals’ Love: Why Humans Cannot Love Us the Way Animals Love Us.

DEFINING PERSONAL BOUNDARY: A POWERFUL STEP TO PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT

Golden rule and platinum rule: defining personal boundary
Photo with permission from MG Expressions

We are humans and every human, just like other animals, are territorial . Such territoriality in this context is the personal space and the space is surrounded by perimeters we create for ourselves.

There is nothing wrong and there is everything right if one creates a definite personal territorial boundary in life. In sciences and engineering, all successful breakthroughs come with the aid of creating boundary conditions. Well I did not find them funny while learning partial differential equations in school!. Continue reading DEFINING PERSONAL BOUNDARY: A POWERFUL STEP TO PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT

WHY IS THERE MORE HONOR IN FIXING DAMAGES THAN PREVENTING THEM?

More honor in fixing damagesIt is becoming an unspoken challenge that there is more honor in fixing things after they have damaged than preventing the damage from occurring. An ancient Chinese story recounted in Ron Moore’s “Making Common Sense Common Practice” goes like this “A lord of ancient China once asked his physician, a member of a family of healers, which of them was the most skilled in the art. The physician, whose reputation was such that his name became synonymous with medical science in China, replied, “My eldest brother sees the spirit of sickness and removes it before it takes shape, so his name does not get out of the house. My elder brother cures sickness when it is still extremely minute, so his name does not get out of the neighborhood. As for me, I puncture veins, prescribe potions, and massage skin, so from time to time my name gets out and is heard among the lords.” Continue reading WHY IS THERE MORE HONOR IN FIXING DAMAGES THAN PREVENTING THEM?

HOW TO BUILD A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP WITH A HEAT SINK

beautiful marriage
Making things beautiful

What makes a beautiful marriage? What makes it great?

I really admire Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey’s beautiful pictures (they took during their happy days), so beautiful! A thought just struck my mind with this question: who is the heat sink among the two for making these happy moments? (Let me not forget to say I admired their twin children; see the video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhCvtfJGkMI)

What is heat sink all about? Continue reading HOW TO BUILD A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP WITH A HEAT SINK

Your Relationship “Love” Has Not Died, Rather This Is What Might Have Happened

To fondness/desire add love and to love add desire, your relationship (any type of relationship) will be a long-lasting, great one filled with memorable moments!

There’s a great difference between love and fondness, between love and desire. Yet to have a great relationship, both are needed.A lot of people love but do not desire their partners.

What you might not know is that the love of money isn’t the root of all evil, rather the fondness for money. (Greek Bible used philaguria (fondness/desire or urge for money and not agapeguria (love of money)

For marriage and relationships, love (agape) cements while desire/fondness spices. Both build stronger relationships.

Most relationships start with the chemical reactions of desire, of want, (the catalyst formed is what I cannot explain as “the way of a man with a woman”.) The continuity of a relationship comes with love.It is easy to hear people say “over time I came to love my partner”. Continue reading Your Relationship “Love” Has Not Died, Rather This Is What Might Have Happened

THE THREE PRINCIPLES OF RELATIONSHIP

“The feeling of being more responsible to a relationship arises automatically when we feel wanted in the relationship”

Every relationship is unique in its own way whether it is social, marital, family/parent, work or even just friends. In spite of their differences, and just as we, humans are fundamentally equal, all kinds of relationship have three fundamental principles. These three principles start any relationship and go ahead to form a backbone knitting each together at any point. Frictions in relationships arise when any or all is lacking. The three things we all do desire from anyone we are in any relationship with are that they should:

  1. accept us
  1. want us
  1. be committed to our wellbeing.

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