One beautiful thing is that being in the present can heal the past and make the future clearer!
There is nothing more powerful than being in the present, being in now. Most times, we cannot help but either stay put in the past or roam in the future. We believe that experience matters a lot but we, at times, tend to get stuck while going over past experiences, especially the negative ones.
The movie, Hacksaw Ridge, was a show of the many facts I have been learning, so many facts that we can use to hack through life to become great and achieve excellence. I would love to share them with you.
Believe in something and be willing to stake your life for it in front or behind anybody and anywhere (you’ll end up getting admiration and respect if you stick to the end).
AN EFFECTIVE WAY OF MAKING RESOLUTIONS WORK FOR YOU
How much time do we have to live in?
50 years? 100? 365 days?
The truth is that we only have one day to live in. That day is TODAY, right? Yet in today (as the only day we have), we only have NOW as when we have to actually live in. We cannot live our lives beyond now.
Yes, whatever we did in the “now” that has passed has a strong influence in the present now and the things we do in the present now goes to influence our future now.
Why motivational books and talks never worked for us AND how to make them work
Have you ever felt awestruck, inspired, energized and impressed by a book or talk? What of Steve Job’s Stanford Commencement Speech? What of others that leave you mesmerized?
Envision such moments!
A lot of us have devoured countless motivational books, spent hours listening to empowering talk shows, podcasts, videos, etc. Yet most really have never ever felt any change or empowerment.
Many of us only feel the empowerment momentarily, maybe as long as three days and yet we return to our original status quo. Wonders, they say, lasts but 7 days.
Does this insinuate that all or most of these motivational speeches and books are hoax and not practical, just like a friend of mine said some time ago?
This challenge has made a lot of people get frustrated with any motivational stuff. Others go from one motivator to another hoping to get the most workable one. It is worthy to note that different motivational books tackle different issues.
“See a man who has mastered a weapon, he is humble; in creativity lies such steps to mastery”
Razy Hassan, a great friend from Bangladesh was once thinking about creativity vs talent. He asked me “what is the difference between both or are they the same?” “If not the same, how do you define both?” He requested that I should put up an article on the topic.
This drew me into the world of creativity and talent; made me also put up this question to different professionals and friends.
Most at times where we are so focused on the results, we allow the process to suffer.
It is true that results matter a lot. Many people are so focused on getting the results even to the extent that the methods mean so little to them.
You might finally achieve the result but what actually trail the wake of your path? In asset management, there is a particular term called post asset liabilities. Post asset liabilities are debts paid even after one does not own the asset. Did you achieve the result but still pay in terms of failed relationships?Continue reading RESULT VS PROCESS (HOW YOU MIGHT FAIL EVEN AFTER WINNING)→
A kid was proudly describing to two other kids on how his dad’s car is the best in the neighborhood. One of the two hearers cut him short and proved to him that the rich family living down the street has better car with good reasons. The kid became angry and sad at the same time.
Most times in life we hold on to certain things we have in life believing that they are the best. But from the moment a comparison is done with some other things and we find our own wanting, we (implicitly or explicitly) become sad about it. Worst of all, we start to become discontented with that which we have.
From the moment we put ourselves (or someone else does) on a scale with our colleagues, friends, or even strangers that we have not met, the feeling of inadequacy and redundancy comes in.
In many organizations or team, meetings are regarded as terrible sources of man-hour losses while in some others, nothing starts or ends without a meeting. To the ones regarding them as waste of time, they are right and to the ones taking meetings as very important part of activities, they are also right about it.
It is always more like a shock to organizational leaders that changes they, themselves, see beyond every doubt that will be beneficial to their systems meet resistance. The employees and more surprising even the managers object to such changes, upgrades and let us call it improvement. The challenge comes from missing out certain ingredients during planning on how to start the change.
Missing Out Adequate Information Communication.
This can make even the most simple changes look complex. The complex changes, with adequate communication, will look very simple. Thus it is necessary to plan an adequate and comprehensive communication system before initiating a change. In planning the communication system, there are certain loopholes that need to be filled: a. What is in the change for us (personally)?Continue reading Why Great Ideas/Changes Meet Resistance and How to Overcome→
I came across a beautiful photo on the internet, of a lady crying about missing her dog on her wedding day. I was really attracted by the photo and my friend Maria(who made the photo for the article) said: “ShimonK, why do we really have such affinity towards animals (our pets), can we not love the way animals do?” This spurred me to research, to ask a lot of people these questions:
Decision making is one of the greatest gift to man and is usually far more effective when backed up by willpower/ strong resolution.
Early in the morning is always a special time. It is the time to break the fast of the long night.
Quite a lot of people carry out different activities in the morning which do help them. A lot of activities such as planning for the day, exercising including yoga, jogging, etc., meditating and praying, reading, etc. All these are very good and I do recommend you should try some out
The most important ingredient in leadership and for one to become a leader is TRUST. Most organizations, teams, groups, families, etc. lack leaders but are filled with hierarchically created authorities. Having a power vested on you or a top position does not mean that you are a leader. Leading and commanding/ordering are two different parallel things even though true leaders (with authority) mix up both at certain times.
It is becoming an unspoken challenge that there is more honor in fixing things after they have damaged than preventing the damage from occurring. An ancient Chinese story recounted in Ron Moore’s “Making Common Sense Common Practice” goes like this “A lord of ancient China once asked his physician, a member of a family of healers, which of them was the most skilled in the art. The physician, whose reputation was such that his name became synonymous with medical science in China, replied, “My eldest brother sees the spirit of sickness and removes it before it takes shape, so his name does not get out of the house. My elder brother cures sickness when it is still extremely minute, so his name does not get out of the neighborhood. As for me, I puncture veins, prescribe potions, and massage skin, so from time to time my name gets out and is heard among the lords.”Continue reading WHY IS THERE MORE HONOR IN FIXING DAMAGES THAN PREVENTING THEM?→
What makes a beautiful marriage? What makes it great?
I really admire Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey’s beautiful pictures (they took during their happy days), so beautiful! A thought just struck my mind with this question: who is the heat sink among the two for making these happy moments? (Let me not forget to say I admired their twin children; see the video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhCvtfJGkMI)
A friend of mine on Facebook recently posted that all his friends should describe themselves in one word. I took up the challenge and I actually thought deeply, meditated and searched my innermost self. A lot of answers came up but I felt that they were wrong. They did not fully describe who I am.
There are two versions of who I am and there is a great difference between who I am (apparently) and who I (really) am. Continue reading WHO AM I?→
If you can’t beat them, you join them (indecisiveness ends the statement here!). If you can’t join them, you leave them (an exhibition of the will!)
I believe strongly that every man and woman has willpower in him or her. Such willpower has been the major difference between man and closely related animals. Our choices, which decide who, what and where we are, largely is dependent on the willpower among others. The others include perception, imagination, intuition, memory and reasoning. Who defines us? What tells us who we are? Continue reading WHO DO PEOPLE SAY I AM?→
Jack, Jill and Jane met at a cafeteria on a cool evening.
Jack started up “Jane, you were not present at the party, it was superb and a lot of dignitaries were present. It started very early quite unlike…
Jill cut in “The CEO was present, the richest man in town was surprisingly present…”
Jack raised his voice in order to complete up his part on how the party commenced while Jill had to raise his also to list the attendees.
Have you been in a conversation where someone is trying to recount an event to someone, an event in which you were a witness to? Or someone tries to explain a subject matter to another of which you are an expert in? What is your first thought and feeling? Continue reading AN EFFECTIVE WAY OF BECOMING A GREAT LISTENER→
You cannot reignite your candle or make it shine brighter by extinguishing another person’s. We will never feel better ourselves by making others feel as miserable as we are.
A lot of people are miserable with themselves. Since you cannot give what you do not have, they have only misery to share with others
A lot of people, in their own misery, aim to make sure that everyone around them feel as miserable as they do. They want every other persons to be on the same level as them, feel the same pain as they do (even when other do not deserve such). Some even secretly Continue reading WHY PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHERS MISERABLE→